Confessions of a Drama Queen

Use your emotions wisely.

Utilize your emotions with a little bit of wisdom; that definitely would not hurt, would it.

No, no, I am not a superstar… at least not yet.  That I profess.  It is still a long road to travel.

As much as I am, I am not.  It is a matter of self-control, not entirely suppression.  It is a matter of selective demonstration.  In other words, mindfulness.

Being aware of what the self is up to – it really could be just about anything.  An enormous wave of silence is extremely helpful  in such periods of self-discovery.  Oh well, since I mentioned self-discovery, I view life as one endless Self-Discovery Channel, which one could switch back and forth to refresh the mind and hopefully gain some form of experience from it.

I know I laugh a little too much – a bit awkward – but that was only my release, you know.

I know I kind of cry too, at times; that was another way for me to release.  Just in case you have not noticed, but of course you have not.

Whatever I have done, it is only human that I did so.  It has been a hell lot of fun watching each chapter unfold on its own.  However, all of nature allows that even the strongest mind – and heart – will face a load of bricks hurling straight at his thoughts and smashing them and shattering them to a thousand pieces.  And all the poor soul must do, of course, is break down and pour out seemingly endless streams of tears from the corners of the eyelids.

Nature permits release of emotions in subtle ways; why else would there be several facial muscles, twitching all together at once, to put up that sweet smile on that pretty face, and thence light up the world around.

There also is Anger, and Pain, and Hurt, and Jealousy – but the mind shall choose as it pleases what it wishes to display.

Just a part of life.

Red Scarlet


Happy Tree Friends

Happy Tree Friends.  (Photo credits to Alicia Ai Leng)

Happy Tree Friends. (Photo credits to Alicia Ai Leng)

A good tree is a happy tree, flourishing with well-trimmed leaves. It grows well, properly nurtured by Mother Nature.  The water from the damp soil seeps into its roots, flowing upwards inch by inch to every end.

Even I myself am wondering why I am using a tree as a metaphor.  You see, that is a good tree.  The branches spread out through the air in several directions with such grace.  A tree well taken care of has a good ending.  It ends well.

A good tree is therefore a happy tree.  Why?  Its needs are met. Its foundations are firmly rooted in the earth, so to speak.  All it has to do now is to spread itself around – around anything it can find.

What makes a happy tree happy, besides of good roots?  How does it stay happy?  Several components to which I could testify, no doubt.

1.  Smiling.

This does wonders to the health.  As I write this, fireworks are shooting in the pitch black sky, lighting it up a little in the process. – Diwali is tomorrow, anyhow.

It does not have to only be the self doing the smiling all the time.  It also involves making others smile, or laugh, perhaps, even.  Whichever is appropriate.

2.  Keeping things simple.

Do not think too much.  Avoid complicating matters.  Life is just as hard as it can get for the self.

3.  Living in the moment.

The mind is a wonderful gift; do not pressure it so, because there simply is no point.  Plans definitely have to be constructed, and some of them will tremble more or less.  Avoid digging the past up and let the future unfold as it wishes.

4.  Thinking happy thoughts.

Focus on thinking happy.  Run after happiness like there is no tomorrow.  Build a conceptual happiness framework in your mind: happy you, happy children, happy parents, happy clients, happy boss, happy everything.  What makes you happy?  What keeps you happy?  Do it.

5.  Surrounding yourself with happy tree friends.

They set you in the mood and share beautiful moments together.  And the happier you are, the more happy tree friends you attract.  It is all in the Law of Attraction.

6.  Acting happy.

Even if you are not happy, at least pretend.  I am serious.  There is no harm making it like you are happy although you are not.  This channels positive energy into the self, and, on a more social level, someone might be able to see your true emotions and talk you out of your suppression.  So act happy.

7.  Saying thanks with that gratitude.

Demonstrating true appreciation with whole-heartedness is totally heart-warming to even the coldest soul.  Appreciate whatever little you have, however much you may possess.  Things are much simpler this way.  Remember there are those not as fortunate as you are.

7.  Discovering the self.

Be a little bit selfish.  Forget the world for a while and do what you wish that others cannot really do.  Go for a swim in the blue oceans.  Go on a hike – or a mountain climb.  Better yet, do some bungee jumping.  Invest on knowing more of the self.  Maybe you could even skip across mountains.  You never know.

8.  Be willing.

One of the precepts of positive psychology is that you need to approach issues with an ever eager heart.  I know you may not like Justin Bieber, but just as he mentioned in his rather infamous number, never say never.

Have fun!  The world is a wide, wide place.  Allow your branches to explore.

The Laughing Etiquette

Ekmeleddin Ihsanoglu is right.  Turkey needs laughter more than anything else.

In an article on the Sun yesterday July 31st, 2014, he refuted Bulent Arinc’s statement that women should not laugh in public.  Since when was feminism involved in laughing?  Here is part of the article by the way.

ANKARA: Women should not laugh in public, Turkey’s deputy prime minister has said in a speech on “moral corruption” in the country.

Bulent Arinc used a meeting on Monday to condemn perceived moral repression, consumerism, and even excessive mobile phone use.

He called for chastity in both men and women and blamed the television and the media for turning teenagers into “sex addicts:, the Hurriyet Daily News reported.

“(The man) will not be a womaniser.  He will be bound to his wife.  He will love his children.  She will not laugh in public.  She will not not be inviting in her attitudes and will protect her chasteness,” Arinc said according to the paper.

He called for Turkish people to stop moral regression.

“Where are our girls, who slightly blush, lower their heads and turn their eyes away when we look at their face, becoming a symbol of chastity?” he said.

Among his other complaints was people having too   many cars and using too much petrol, and women talking about “unnecessary” topics on the phone instead of meeting face-to-face.

Ekmeledin Ihsanoglu, who is running against Prime Minister Recep Tayyip Erdogan in next month’s presidential elections, took to Twitter to argue against Arinc’s statement.  Turkey need women to laugh, he said, and the country needs to hear laughter more than anything.

It is humane to laugh, to express oneself.  It is healthier to automatically release one’s feelings, instead of keeping everything inside like an automaton.  It is a part of human nature.

This is not only applicable to men.  Women should also make full use of it.  Of course it does not have to go to the extent of them lashing out their slender hands and slapping their legs – that would be a little too much!

It applies to what, when, and where – even if it is in the public.




Only Human

Appreciating life for its little pleasures and accepting things as they are makes you a happier person. (Photo credits to Alicia Ai Leng)

Appreciating life for its little pleasures and accepting things as they are makes you a happier person. (Photo credits to Alicia Ai Leng)

Staying positive is about keeping yourself and others happy by thinking positive.  It is about channeling happy thoughts to the brain to extend longetivity.  It is about maintaining one’s own well-being through activities like exercise, being thankful for little things, giving in and not prioritizing your decisions on others, and so much more.

Which is why I plan on taking up hip hop when life falls back into place and everything is settles.  I attended my first hip hop workshop last week, and it was totally awesome.  To me hip hop is just like exercise, because it expends your energy to create flow.  Hip hop and music, when played together, actually helps one not worry too much about the muscle sore, but rather brings the focus to the present.

It is about minimizing your life by keeping things simple, about surrounding yourself with people who make you laugh, who keep you happy.  It is about recording the simple things in life, because these are the things that make you stay happy.  It is about laughing at the silly mistakes you and your friends make from time to time – remembering that we are only humans, and it is all right to err.